Ten strategies and misconceptions of children's home education

Family education refers to the education that a person receives in the special social structure of the family, generally refers to the influence from all aspects of the family that a person receives from birth until he or she forms a family, including the conscious transfer of knowledge, moral education and the conscious cultivation of the atmosphere of family life. Here are the top ten strategies for children's home education, hope you like it!

Ten strategies for children's home education

Set an example

Role model is an important way to influence and educate children with the good ideas and good behaviors of others. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive characters in literature and art works, and the excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Whether the parents' words and actions are wrong or right, they have a very profound influence on their children. Therefore, parents should always and everywhere check their own words and actions in daily life.

Environmental inculcation

Parents should consciously create a good living environment so that their children can be infected and nurtured. The family is the main place for their children to live, so parents should organize their life well, deal with the relationship between members, insist on the correct moral behavior as a guideline, form a united and harmonious family atmosphere, and establish a well-organized life order, so as to cultivate the good moral character of their children.

Criticism and punishment

Criticism and punishment are both denials of children's bad thinking and behavior, but the latter is a means of education for serious bad thinking and behavior. When criticizing and punishing, first of all, we must understand the situation comprehensively, grasp the specific circumstances and seriousness of the bad thought behavior, from the actual error, criticism is to point out the harm, the root cause of thought, deny their thought behavior, make them feel ashamed and pain, and then produce the motivation to correct the error. Criticism should not be sarcastic, do not taunt, do not abuse. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not humiliation of character and physical and mental destruction.

Guidance in arranging the order of life

Good living order is an effective way to develop good habits in your children. Instruct your children to arrange their lives, set up their living environment, and teach them to learn to arrange and use their time in an orderly manner. It is important to let your child make his or her own arrangements, and parents can give guidance from the sidelines.

Convincing Education

The specific practices of persuasive education: First, talk, parents according to the actual thinking of their children, lay out the facts, reason, so that children understand a certain reason, talk should be targeted, flexible, and friendly attitude, not a face, condescending rebuke, sarcasm. The second is to discuss, parents and children to discuss together. The discussion should respect the child, patiently listen to its views, there is an incorrect point of view, but also to patiently reason, so that children know right from wrong. Parents should be brave enough to admit that their views are incorrect.

Practical Exercise

Practical exercise covers a wide range of topics, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, physical exercise, self-care, housework, independent work, civilization and manners, social intercourse, and so on. To carry out practical exercise, first of all, we should let children clarify the purpose and meaning (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and persevere to the end. The content of the exercise should be appropriate to the age and personality characteristics of the child, from their actual ability, the task given and the requirements proposed must be appropriate. Allow your child to make mistakes in practice, do not be overly demanding. Parents should not stop exercising in the middle of the day for fear that their children will suffer.

Praise and reward

Praise and reward is to affirm and praise the child's thought and behavior. Through affirmation and praise, to strengthen the children's motivation and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and rewards should be realistic, timely, explain the reasons, and should be mainly spiritual rewards, material rewards as a supplement.

Guiding extracurricular reading

Guide your children to read books, newspapers and magazines to draw beneficial spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should grasp the content of their children's reading, discuss it with their children, and guide their children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons, and be spiritually enlightened through reading.

Use of family television

Television into the family, children can get a lot of knowledge from watching television, to grow insight, to make full use of. However, we should pay attention to: not to be unselective, not to be too long. Talk with your children after watching TV and discuss the content of TV.

Take your children out to society

Take your children to parks, scenic spots, stores, factories, rural areas, or to visit classmates, relatives and friends for social interaction, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society and get to know it.

Common educational mistakes made by parents

Parents have high expectations of their children and strive for perfection.

Because parents don't want to disappoint themselves, they constantly put pressure on their children. When the child keeps catering to the parents' expectations, he loses himself and his life state is no longer comfortable and fluid. He can only cling to the "excellence" that he has paid so much for. Such a "good" child, like a bomb, will be detonated at any time, either to blow up others, or to blow up themselves. There is a statistic that 23% of children with mental illness in college are recognized as "very good" in middle and high school. But children are very different, even if they are coerced, there are many who can not meet the expectations of their parents, thus creating low self-esteem and rebelliousness.

2, when the child does not make their own satisfaction derogatory him, chastise him

In fact, the child is already very guilty when they can not make their parents satisfied, this time parents then scold him, will make the guilt into resentment and then to break the pot. Otherwise, it is temporarily held back from making but buried the lead to mental illness, which may break out at any time.

3, take their own children with others than

This is a common problem of most parents, when parents often compare their children with other children, children will think they are incompetent, thus losing self-confidence, towards low self-esteem.

4, conditionally meet the needs of the child

You get first place in the exam and you buy travel shoes! You get into the top five we will go on a family trip! Many parents see this as a reasonably enlightened reward and punishment initiative for their children! Unbeknownst to them, this brings the subconscious message to the child that he or she is loved only if he or she meets the standards of mom and dad. Then the child will pay the price of losing himself or herself to get the love of his or her parents!

5、Predict that the child is not successful

There are two consequences of predicting that your child will not make it, one is the more you say he will not make it, the more he will not make it, completely lose his will and ability to learn, and eventually fulfill your prediction! The other kind of children, the more you say he is no good, the more he has to prove that he has good, but a lifetime of living in the "proof", lost self, but also lost the wisdom of life and the wisdom to make their own happiness.

6, instead of the child to make choices

There are three stages of children's psychological independence, respectively at the ages of 3, 9 and 12. When you are young, children eat on their own, parents should care and not interfere, do not say you are eating on the clothes, I'll feed it! Then again, you should choose for your child what clothes he or she wants to wear! There is also no sound for the child enrolled in piano classes, are not wise. Parents are always using their "own minds" to control their children, but they ignore the fact that the process of replacing them is the process of depriving them of growth. If you deprive your child of a certain aspect of growth, your child will lose the ability to do something.

7, do not trust the child

Do not think that the child has the ability to control, do not think that the child can actually do, completely destroyed the child's self-esteem and motivation. To train your child to become a "talent", you should first let your child first "adult", otherwise all kinds of problems children will only be more and more.

To sum up: the process of parents educating their children is to adjust their own state to the process of peace and joy, the state of peace and joy is love! The process of educating children is also the process of broadening the amount of heart. It is easy to change a child, when you "allow" the child, the child is "easy (change)".